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Email or Thank You Note?

18 Jul

It’s Friday and I was thinking ahead to the weekend.  We are invited to two parties and of course I am planning what I will bring. Then I started to think about making sure I have enough stationery and stamps for writing a thank you note afterwards to thank the host.  I wonder how many people actually still take the time to write their host a thank you card.  Or is it now more acceptable to simply send a text or email after a party?

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I feel that a handwritten thank you note shows your host how much you really appreciate the time they took to have the party.  And honestly, who doesn’t like getting mail that isn’t a bill or advertisement?  It’s always fun to get a handwritten thank you note in the mail!  No matter what you believe, it’s always in good taste to thank your host either way.  So now I’d love to know what you think is acceptable … an email/text or a handwritten note?  Tell me what you think and why in the comments below!

xoxo

Jennifer

Engaged? Helpful Tips on Save-the-Date Wording

11 Jan

Engaged?  Congratulations!  One of the next steps is to send friends and family a Save-the-Date Announcement.   Not sure what to include on your Save-the-Date?  Etiquette expert Sue Fox has the following suggestions to help you with wording whether your style is formal or informal.

 

The format and wording to use

Ensure that you include both names, the date and location of the wedding and since this may be a new concept to some of your guests include an explanation that a formal invitation will follow. The card can be worded quite informally:

Save the weekend of June 19, 2009! Jane and John are getting married!

We’re getting married! You’ll be invited to the wedding that is to take place on June 19, 2009. Please save the date! Jane and John

Joanne Green and Allen Thompson  Please Save the Date!  We will be getting married on July 25th 2010 in Boston, Massachusetts. Invitation and details to follow.

 

A more formal approach for a formal wedding might read:

Dear Mr. & Mrs. Myers,

Please save the date of Saturday, June 19, 2009 for the wedding of Joanne Green and Allen Thompson (or full names for a formal card) in Boston, Massachusetts.  Invitations to follow.

Sincerely,

Mr. & Mrs. William Green

 

And make sure to enter our Pinterest Wedding Contest for one in five chances to win a $100 Gift Certificate to The Stationery Studio.  The perfect way to kick start your wedding planning.

xoxo

Jennifer

Sue_fox-210-expSue Fox is an etiquette expert and contributor to The Stationery Studio. Sue has provided etiquette products, educational material, group training, and private consultations to business professionals, celebrities, corporations, K-12 schools, and colleges for 12 years with her California-based company, Etiquette Survival. Prior to that, she was employed in the hi-tech industry with ten years experience in sales and marketing and event planning at Apple, Inc. She is the author of Etiquette For Dummies, (2nd. edition 2007), Business Etiquette For Dummies, (2nd. edition 2008), and Wedding Etiquette For Dummies(1st. editon 2009).Sue is also the Executive Producer of the The Etiquette Survival Kit, a popular series of educational DVDs featuring dining and social etiquette for adults and teens and proper table settings from casual to formal dining.You can learn more about Sue Fox and her books at www.susanannefox.com

 

Saying Thanks in Style!

2 Jan


A Refresher Course in Writing Thank you Notes

By Sue Fox, StudioNotes Etiquette Expert

Saying “Thank You” with handwritten note cards is a gracious and traditional way to repay holiday kindness – especially in today’s fast-paced world of changing technology. With less formal options of e-mail, texting, and social networks, writing a thank-you note is still absolutely necessary.

A handwritten thank-you note is a shining example of repaying kindness with kindness. It also expresses your gratitude and makes others feel appreciated. More importantly, it shows respect.

The excuse of having no time to write a thank-you note isn’t acceptable. Think about all the time and effort, not to mention the expense that may have been involved in providing a favor, a gift, a dinner, lending a sympathetic ear, putting a party together, or other acts of generosity. The silence is disappointing to the giver, but has bigger implications—hurt feelings.

Writing thank-you notes isn’t terribly difficult or time consuming—it takes just a few minutes at the most!

When you sit down to craft a thank-you note or letter, be yourself and write with sincerity. Your letters and notes should reflect your personality, as if you were talking with the recipient in person. Be sure to use the following basic elements in the structure of your note.

  • Always use a salutation or greeting. Depending on your relationship, you may use either a first or last name and appropriate title.
  • Keep in mind that three to five sentences are all that’s necessary in the main body of your thank-you note.
  • Always refer to the gift, deed, or act of kindness by name (not just “Thank you for the present”) and describe the deed
  • If you’ve been given a gift, say what you like about the gift and mention how you plan to use it.
  • If someone went out of the way to help you, mention the actual deed and how that person’s support was beneficial.
  • Include a closing sentence. You want your closing statement to flow with the letter or note. The closing sentence can be a final mention of your appreciation or something as simple as “I hope to see you soon.” Always end on a positive note.
  • Close your letter appropriately. Depending on your relationship, a close can be personal (“Yours truly,”) or formal (“Respectfully,”)

Here are a few additional tips on writing personal or business thank- you notes.

  • Thank-you notes should be sent within a week at best. If it happens to take a bit longer, don’t apologize or make excuses for why you’re late.
  • Neatness counts! Take a deep breath just before you begin. If you mess up somewhere along the line, start over with a fresh piece of paper, note card, or envelope. Strikeovers, ink blots, messy erasures, etc. are not acceptable.
  • Thanking people for something usually follows the form in which the invitation was extended. If you receive a telephone invitation, a telephone thank-you is appropriate, although a thank-you note is a nice touch. If you receive a written invitation, you should always write a thank-you note.
  • Thank-you notes are not reserved for parties and dinners. The general rule is this: If someone goes the extra mile for you, a thank-you note is appropriate; if the thank-you is just for day-to-day business, a verbal “Thank you” is good enough.
  • If you’ve been a houseguest and are continuing to travel, send a thank-you postcard from your next destination rather than waiting until you arrive home to send a thank-you note.

And, like just about everything else in life, the habit is learned young! Remember mom and dad—children learn by example. When parents give children a pass on showing gratitude with pen and paper, they foster a sense of entitlement—to invert the popular saying, you can get something for nothing in this world.